Venus in Scorpio

If visceral sexiness and unfiltered emotional expression are part of your must-haves in a partner, you may have met your match with Venus in Scorpio. Now, the question begs: will they want you in the same way, too? 

Venus in Scorpio has a reputation for being all-consuming and obsessive when it comes to matters of the heart. Folks with this placement won’t necessarily be the ones to tell you everything about themselves first. In fact, they’d prefer to be the initiator in matters of courtship, asking you questions and getting to know all the details about you first if they find you intriguing enough to proceed. This is partially out of a genuine curiosity and interest in you (and human behavior in general - Scorpio is the Zodiac’s resident psychologist), but also (either consciously or unconsciously) as a means to subtly control the situation. This is because Venus in Scorpio possesses amazing qualities of loyalty and devotion, and finding themselves in positions of vulnerability means being susceptible to potentially life-altering heartache if things don’t go the way they hope. They want to be sure that they can trust you, because for them, when they find themselves in love, they really put their heart and soul on the line. Doing this is no easy task, which Venus in Scorpio understands intimately. There is certainly an all-or-nothing element to Venus in Scorpio relationships, which can be beautiful if both partners are equally invested, or more challenging if one party isn’t completely on board, or has different perceptions about the relationship’s dynamics. 

The primordial dance of courtship between Venus in Scorpio and their object of affection is something amazing to witness. The usage of the word “primordial” here is intentional; there’s something instinctually sensual and seductive about Venus in Scorpio’s methods of seduction once they decide who they want and go after it. Usually, Venus in Scorpio will dedicate significant time and energy toward understanding the likes, dislikes, interests, and turn-ons of their love interest. Then, it becomes a delicious game of cat and mouse, with Venus in Scorpio leading the charge. Even when it comes to short-lived flings or casual relationships, there’s an intentionality and presence of action here.

As Scorpio is a fixed Water sign ruled by Pluto, emotions remain at the forefront with Venus in Scorpio. Generally speaking, it’s not really Venus in Scorpio’s tendency to have superficial, surface-level relationships. Venus in Scorpio folks need to intimately acquaint themselves with the emotional undercurrents of their partner, even if those emotions might be considered ugly, “too much”, embarrassing, or difficult to understand by others. In fact, Venus in Scorpio natives may find themselves attracting, or, in extreme cases, being victimized by, emotionally-wounded or afflicted partners and friends. It’s important for Venus in Scorpio to understand their emotional power and breadth; even on an unconscious level, others can sense the depth present in Venus in Scorpio natives and can feel compelled to unload or unleash personal traumas even early on in the relationship. 

Sexually speaking, the rumors are true: because Venus in Scorpio is inclined to tune in emotionally and psychically to their partner, and because Scorpio rules the reproductive organs, they are able to hone in on their partner’s pleasure in masterful ways. Expect sexuality and physical intimacy to take precedence in relationships with Venus in Scorpio.  This serves as a vehicle for them to express their loyalty and devotion in tangible ways. 

If you have this placement, understand that your powers of emotional perception and regeneration are real and highly valuable, even if everyone can’t or won’t appreciate them. If you’re seeking the affections of someone with this placement, be open and willing to relinquish control in the name of love.