Venus in Cancer
Sweet Venus in Cancer - even if you are not a mother, or have little interest in children for that matter, there is a tenderness and fierce loyalty central to your character, similar to that of a maternal figure caring for its offspring. Generally, there is an immense desire with Venus in Cancer to protect that which belongs to it - physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. Possessiveness and authentic connection are huge themes with this placement, as the Moon, Cancer’s ruler, connects with Venus here.
Cancer’s naturally nurturing tendencies blend well with Venus’s sensuality, lending the native an endearing mix of warm hospitality and creative reasoning. But Venus in Cancer isn’t all sweetness and feel-good warm fuzzies - like the crab for which the sign of Cancer represents, beware of the native with Venus in Cancer that encounters feelings of emotional disconnection or, worse, betrayal. Venus in Cancer has an incredible depth and psychic sensitivity to it, which can be both a source of strength and a source of exhausting inner turmoil depending on other factors in the birth chart. What you see is not always what you get with this Venus sign - passive-aggression and emotional manipulation are examples of this Venus sign’s energy being misused or underdeveloped. Cancer ultimately seeks to protect itself and those it deems worthy enough to welcome into its impenetrable crabby shell; when the equilibrium of comfort is thrown off balance, expect emotional drama to be at its height.
On the brighter side, Venus in Cancer possesses an incredible gift of self-regeneration not found in most other Venus signs. This native lives in a world of fantastical feelings - when it finds its match (quite possibly with someone with Venus in watery Scorpio or Pisces), its powers of attraction and flirtation are unmatched. There’s a sense of comfortable, familiar seduction with this sign - I often relate the classic “girl next door” archetype to Venus in Cancer because natives with this placement have a knack for appealing to others’ most primal and instinctual emotional sensors. On the most basic level, Venus in Cancer lives to make the people it loves comfortable, comforted, cared for, and cherished. Of course, this can also attract people with less pure intentions; even though the emotional epicenter of Venus in Cancer is rather well-attuned, natives here can have a hard time distinguishing between their wants and needs when it comes to sharing their love and affection.
Cancer Venusians tend to consider the little things as being the big things in relationships. Little things might mean small but meaningful displays of affection like a tender kiss before leaving for work, a subtle hand touch or longing glance during a party, cute, hand-scribbled love notes quietly slipped between the pages of a book, a picture from a first date, or remembering a favorite drink from a romantic getaway years ago. Romance and sentimentality go hand and hand here.
Sexually, Venus in Cancer natives possess a profound well of lustful energy but feel most comfortable expressing it with people they feel they have a richer, more nuanced connection with. Of course, this doesn’t completely outrule Venus in Cancer’s sense of promiscuity or attraction to multiple people at once, but it does mean that even with the prospect of multiple partners, there’s a tendency to focus on just one person at a time if that person is providing them with the emotional depth and stability they ultimately crave. Flings, one-offs and short-lived romances may appeal for a brief period, but more often than not the native will feel unfulfilled by such encounters. With this placement, there is so much to give, so much to pour into and out of, and so much to be gained by doing so.
